While December can be a really fun month for some families, it also presents a major challenge for families raising Jewish children. The December Dilemma, or the proximity of Christmas to Chanukah, can provoke a whole suite of emotions for parents and kids: Do you have the “Santa talk” with your kids? Go over the top for Chanukah to make it feel as big as Christmas or other December holidays? Combine celebrations?
When is too much, too much? What are good limits to set on gift giving and receiving?
For many interfaith families, there can be an extra layer of trickiness when holidays with gift-giving traditions overlap. Is it possible to celebrate and still maintain an attitude of gratitude? Or will materialism overshadow the Chanukah story’s messages of bravery, hope, and finding light in the darkness? Here are some tips we collected from PJ Library families who celebrate Chanukah and Christmas or another December holiday.
Give to Others
Giving to others is a very Jewish way to celebrate any holiday.
Chanukah is a great time to focus on tzedakah with your family. You can start a new tzedakah practice, amp up your own weekly tradition, or brainstorm ways as a family to help serve others. To get started, here are three easy service projects you can do with your family in just an afternoon.
Keep Gifts Useful
School supplies and back packs are a great example of gifts that are fun and useful.
If your family is celebrating Christmas and Chanukah, you can try the “rule of four” for holidays. Each family member receives something they want, something they wear, something they need, and something to read as a gift.
Employ “one in, one out”
Cleaning out the play room or closet can actually be fun too!
Take a lesson from a book like Just Enough and Not Too Much to pare down what you have at home. Do a toy box and around the house clean-out to simplify your home and take stock of the items that feel really important to your kids. You can also start a family practice of giving something away to a friend, loved one, or person in need, any time something new comes in to your home.
More:
Chanukah Tips for Interfaith Families via kveller.com
Why My Children Won’t Be Getting Chanukah Gifts This Year via Today
To help your loved ones and community enjoy Chanukah with you, check out our Chanukah Guide.
November 15, 2018